Understanding gender begins at birth, not as a strict template of roles and expectations but as an evolving awareness of identity and individuality. The names we give children have no bearing on their strength, capabilities or potential, they are not instructions for how to behave based on gender.
Instead of reinforcing stereotypes, we must focus on nurturing self-identity, confidence, awareness and a sense of belonging. These are the building blocks of a society that values tolerance and views all people as equal recognising differences in biological birth but not letting them define one’s worth or opportunities.
Early intervention plays a vital role. Children learn by observing adults, imitating both what we say and what we do. This makes adult behaviour and language a powerful platform for promoting gender equality. Our interactions with children should be thoughtful and intentional, avoiding gender-biased remarks and expectations.
From a young age, both boys and girls should be encouraged to express their feelings freely, make independent choices and develop a sense of belonging. These freedoms should not be dictated by outdated notions of what a boy or girl should be. The goal is to raise children who respect themselves and others not for their gender, but for their humanity.
The Role of Culture and Tradition in Gender Equality
Different cultures and traditions play a significant role in shaping perceptions of gender especially in defining the roles, responsibilities and expectations assigned to boys and girls. In many communities, these cultural beliefs dictate who holds certain positions in the family, such as the heir or who is expected to take on specific tasks or leadership roles.
One of the most lasting impacts of tradition is its generational influence. Gender norms are often passed down from parents to children, creating a cycle that can be difficult to break. These traditions while deeply rooted can become stagnant, resistant to change even when they conflict with modern understandings of equality and fairness.
For example, many parents are committed to raising their children the same way they were raised, holding tightly to long-standing cultural beliefs. This often means continuing practices that limit opportunities for girls or place restrictive expectations on boys. Even when these practices compromise gender equality, they are upheld in the name of preserving tradition.
To move forward, it is essential to respect cultural identity while also questioning and re-evaluating the parts of tradition that no longer serve the well-being and equality of all individuals. Change begins when communities are willing to reflect on these norms and make conscious choices that promote fairness for every child regardless of gender.
Education: A Fundamental Right Beyond Gender
The facts of life clearly show that education is a fundamental human right regardless of gender. Every child whether a girl or a boy, deserves equal access to quality education and the freedom to explore their interests, talents and aspirations.
However, in practice the education system often reflects and reinforces societal gender biases. Children are subtly steered toward certain career paths, professions or fields of study based on outdated gender norms. Boys may be encouraged to pursue science, technology or leadership roles, while girls may be pushed toward caregiving or artistic fields even when their interests lie elsewhere.
This kind of influence limits children’s potential. It leads some to follow paths that do not reflect their true passions or strengths. As a result their creativity, performance and contribution to society can be stifled robbing the world of future champions in diverse professions.
True educational equality means allowing every child to dream without boundaries, to explore without judgment, and to grow into who they are, not who society expects them to be. By removing gender-based expectations from education, we create a system that not only supports individual growth but also strengthens communities and economies through diverse talent and innovation.
Environment and Community: Shaping Gender Perspectives
The environment in which a child grows up plays a powerful role in shaping their understanding of gender. From an early age, children absorb the behaviours, attitudes and expectations they observe in their communities. These daily experiences can often reinforce rigid gender roles creating a mindset that defines what boys and girls “should” be, rather than allowing space for individuality.
Over time, these gendered expectations become internalised and are projected onto others as a way of finding a sense of belonging. Children may begin to imitate what they see around them, even when those behaviours limit their potential or contradict their personal values.
This is why families must be intentional and mindful. Open, honest discussions with children are essential, conversations that help them distinguish between what is right and wrong and guide them in staying grounded in their family’s values. At the same time, it is important that these values promote respect, equality and understanding without judging or undermining others.
By fostering awareness and critical thinking at home, families can empower children to challenge harmful norms, respect diversity and contribute to building a more inclusive community.
This represents my thinking shaped by experience and observation thus far.
I would like to give us all the space to digest these ideas, reflect on them and engage in collective brainstorming. Everyone is welcome to share their perspectives and experiences, as each voice adds depth and meaning to the conversation. Once we have had the opportunity to explore these thoughts fully, we can move forward to part 2.
Mampoetsi Motsoeneng | Client Executive – Strategic Transfer Solutions
